A saying that you've probably heard a whole lot in business, in sports, and human performance generally is governing the controllable. What does that truly mean? I wanted to adopt this concept of governing the controllable, which can be actually great advice mind you, and take it out in the whole world of like a cliché and in the an entire world of something that we are able to actually do.
In our workshops we'll use something known as the CIA Model to assist students gain understanding of this concept and reduce stress in their own personal lives. It's pretty clear to see this model so here's the short form.
CIA is short for Control Influence Accept. All in the circumstances and situations that people find ourselves in will get into one of these brilliant three categories. I am going to discuss them in the opposite direction order.
There is definitely an enormous number of things in our world that we must accept. Weather, traffic patterns, scores and outcomes of games that we're not actually playing in. One from the best things that people can do for the own peace of mind is always that when there's something which we should accept, is absolutely just to accept it not waste any injury wanting to change it out.
The second category are things that we influence. The two big stuff that fall into this will be the immediate environment, your vehicle, work, your property, and other people that you simply take care of. Listen, and we don't have total control over our kids, our colleagues, etc, but we all do have influence over them, the other from the best items that that you can do for your growth is that in circumstances that you have influence to really exercise that influence will dramatically supercharge your self-esteem.
Now we visit the category of things we can control. We're here to speak about governing the controllable. Well, do you know what, folks? I've found that there is really only one thing one of many things that people can control. It's your decisions.
That's right, your decisions about your daily life include the only thing we actually have direct control over. When you realize this, it becomes type of confronting and type of liberating all simultaneously. What do you do using this information, how the only thing that I have complete control over include the decisions that I make?
Stop trying to control issues that you have no control over. Amazing to me how much energy people waste trying to control issues that they maybe have influence over, but in many cases should read more just accept. I'll also say that when it comes to stuff that you might have zero influence over, I wouldn't spend a lot of time talking or complaining about them. It's only a drain on your energy. Are you catching yourself wanting to control issues that you ought to just accept? Notice that, and I would change your mind on that.
When you realize how the only thing you have total control over is the decisions, be responsible for that decision-making process. I'm not saying to blame yourself when things end up poorly. I am saying it will take responsibility for that decision that you make. That's when you start out managing the controllables and seeing the outcome which you really need to see.
I don't play a whole lot of poker, but one thing that I be familiar with is always that winning at cards, specifically poker, includes a small amount about the cards that you just are dealt, and it includes a huge amount about the way you make decisions and play them that you just're dealt. Same thing applies to your lifetime. Life truly is 10 percent what are the results to us and 90 percent the way you react.
I hope that you have enjoyed studying controlling the controllables.